How can you move from a state of disconnection, numbness and anxiety to feeling yourself again?
We all know this… The more we evolve on our path of consciousness expansion, the less we can tolerate a disconnection from our body and the more painful the numbness becomes. The anxiety level increases and sometimes might even lead to a panic attack. Feeling ourselves becomes indispensable as we are following the pull of our life force and purpose we are here to embody in this lifetime.
The trauma we store in our body is felt physically and emotionally because it is what we need to release in order to fulfill our own commitment of becoming the one we were always meant to be. And these physical sensations and emotions can be so uncomfortable that we first put them aside when they arise. We can cope with this mechanism for a few hours, a few days and maybe even for a few weeks. The wall of numbness needs to become thicker to hold these sensations on the very ground of the surface.
And the longer we store them there, the louder they get and the more we distance ourselves from feeling ourselves – because it would be too painful now. Then there comes the day when our nervous system breaks down. It can’t hold it anymore. We cannot function properly in our lives anymore, even with the simple tasks.
As it can affect our sleep and eating habits as well as it can cause a lack of our self-care practices, we are very likely to feel stressed, depleted and exhausted.
At this point we know we have to finally check in with ourselves and sit with what we avoided all along.
Here’s how you move through it:
1) FIRST OF ALL MAKE THE GAPS SMALLER:
We are all human and deal with certain levels of trauma which makes it impossible to never have these moments in life, but try to catch yourself earlier when this happens to not create a total painful disconnection that makes it hard to come back to yourself again. It’s helpful to have a mentor/coach/healer on your side who accompanies you on your journey of releasing old beliefs, blockages and traumas and holds you accountable.
2) WHEN YOU’VE REACHED THAT PEAK POINT, TAKE PROMPT ACTION AND PREPARE A SPACE:
Nothing is more important than your health. I know how difficult this is for a mum, a business owner, etc, but you might need to ask for help. Prepare a safe and secure space that makes you feel grounded and focussed by lighting candles, burning some incense, setting up cushions, a blanket and tissues and turn off all electronic devices to be completely undisturbed.
3) SET AN INTENTION & FEEL:
This is the hardest part. Set an intention (like “I am here to feel what’s present within me.”) and speak it to the Divine. Close down your eyes, take three deep breaths, relax your breath and start by feeling the physical sensations in your body. Don’t judge them. But allow yourself to fully feel them. As you are feeling them, see if your body wants to move intuitively in a certain way. Go with the natural flow that wants to unfold, incorporate your breath and even touch. This is a totally intuitive process in which you allow your body’s wisdom to guide you. You will sense as you are moving that also your emotions come up. Let everything unfold and your body do it’s thing. Your body is wise and knows how to heal and regulate herself. Go fully into it. Tears may come up. Or anger and you need to punch and scream into the cushions. You will naturally come home to a state of self-regulation of your nervous system.
4) HOLD YOURSELF:
When the tornado has broken through and you slowly calm back to feeling closer to yourself again, hold yourself. This can literally mean to hold your own hand, to hug yourself or put your hands onto your heart. And feel if there’s something else that wants to come through.
5) RECEIVE THE GIFT:
Usually, when everything has calmed down, the messages come in. What do I learn from this? What is the higher gift of this experience? How can I move forward in a more loving way? How can I take better care of myself? It’s nice to write them down.
Finally, act upon the gift you’ve received and do yourself something good.